Though I assumed we would adopt from China, we obviously ended up making different choices. A while ago, I wrote about the process of deciding where we would look for a child, and about imaging our eventual family. Remember that?
It was difficut to express at the time, and I felt like I explained it awkwardly. Anyway, today I found that Pomegranate wrote something similar but did a better job.
"...some people obsess on the "baby" aspect - they're adopting a baby, they're having a baby, China has babies, they've longed for a baby, but of course we need to remember, when we start out on this bizarre journey, that we are adopting a person. An individual, a life that will too soon be independent of ours. We're adopting a five year old, a teenager, a young adult, a 40 year old, an elderly person...that whole life will be joined with ours and that is the hugest thing we will ever, ever do. For us, and most certainly for them. We choose to change an entire life. Er...wow."
Well said, isn't it?
Wow, indeed! That was beautifully said and something I think all parents need to consider at all times. We're not just adopting or having children...we're raising people! Very nicely said.
Posted by: sixletmama | Monday, April 17, 2006 at 09:10 AM